Get A Healing…

A long time ago, I believed to visit a counsellor or some sort of therapist you had to be crazy.  I’ve done a complete 180.  Now I believe if you don’t visit a counsellor or some sort of therapist, you are crazy.

Bring your attention to the way we are living our lives.  Everyone I know works extremely hard.  Five days a week (at least), slotting in exercise, food shopping and appointments. On weekend cleaning houses, catching up on the chores that weren’t completed during the week and ticking of social events. Feeling exhausted, when really want to be escaping into some thoughtless tv streaming series and self-medicating with alcohol or something stronger. 

Our school age children are falling apart due to the pressure placed on them to achieve academic brilliance, and from the early age these young humans are compared and ranked against their peers.  Leaving them feeling “I’m not go enough” and “I don’t belong” battered and bruised, at young adulthood they are spat out at the other end of the education system and told to choose a life time career, when all they want to do is sit on beach and watch the surf.

In motherhood we a bombarded with ideas of how to be a good mother.  Family, friends and strangers giving advice without being asked.  To be a good parent, we enrol our babies into swimming lesson, kindy gym, ballet and music lessons. We are told to entertain our babies with homemade sensory bags, pompom board, and ribbon mobiles.  We should attend mothers’ group, playgroup and parenting groups.  This is on top of major identity change, sleep deprivation, hormonal changes causing hair to fall out and glowing skin from pregnancy vanishes, leaving you looking a tired as you feel. As for the relationship with the partner, well you’re too tired to have sex, or every time you do it is cut short due to the baby or a toddler standing in the doorway.  Poor kid definitely will need a healing for that.  And what about those couples who can’t have babies…

And then we have the end of life. Our beautiful parents with heal issues, accepting their bodies are failing, losing independence, confidence and hope.  Burying their brothers and sisters, life time friends. Their social circle shrinking daily and the pandemic has left so many too afraid to leave their homes or have visitors.  I can’t imagine what this must be like for this generation.  The world rushing past them with such speed.  Even calling a friend on a phone can be a difficult task.

And those parents who have to bury their children. Due is illness, suicide or accident.  How do these people get out of bed each day?  How do these people deal with pain of a broken heart? Knowing that their normal has vanished and never to return. As time moves on, having to create a life that does not include their love one.  Their pain is one I hope I never have to experience. My love goes out to these people.

And don’t look towards the media for any inspiration. Turn on the TV, radio or open the paper, negativity spills out to the world.  Everywhere we look are images of the world falling apart.  We hear our leaders shaming and blaming each other.  We hear tragic stories of loss of life due to war.  Innocent people displaced and in despair. With constant reminder of a pandemic sending a ripple effect through medical, business, education and community system on a worldwide scale.  Does it make you stop and wonder why everyone may be slight fearful? And I haven’t even mentioned the planet falling apart because of human greed and over consumerism. Enough is enough.

Just writing this is making me depressed.  If you are reading this thinking “I’m OK”, you’re delusional.  We all have something we need healed.  We all have a wound that when poked will send us into a tail spin.  Or maybe when your wound is poked you supress with your choice of numbing agent, alcohol, food, drugs and busyness.

We are at tipping point, peeps. Are you going that to lose your head with the 16 year old McDonald employee handing you your morning coffee?  Or enter into some road rage with a complete stranger.  How about taking out your mood on you children after hectic day at the office. Read the room. Enough is enough.              

And you don’t think you need therapy.  If you are moody, withdrawn, sad, constantly angry or having to be “right”; maybe you unconsciously judging the world or playing the victim.   Has fear got you caged unable do something nice for yourself as you are pinned to couch with inertia or maybe anxiety and unhealthy patterns are keeping as slave to busyness, numbing the bubbling of prickly emotion coming from the murky depth of your body.

Or are you enslaved to your overthinking mind.  What story are you tell yourself today? Captivated by cyclic thought patterns, that have absolutely no value or truth to them.  These illusions make up your reality. A reality based on trauma you experience when you were a child. Every time you experience a negative emotion you are responding to an event in the past disguised in the present moment.

You can say all the affirmations you like but if you haven’t done the work on yourself, it is useless.  You can manifest but you will attract a big fat nothing or just more of what you’ve got.

Come on people get yourself into some sort of healing.  Ignore the signs and you will be in the same place in 12 months. Here’s a thought; step out of your comfort zone and get some healing. You may find happiness, peace and love on the journey. 

So can you see why I think you’re crazy not to be doing some sort of healing.

P.S. Didn’t mention effects of mental health, marriage breakdown, sexual assault, First Nation, bullying, LGBTQ, refugees, war veterans, armed forces, the incarcerated, formerly incarcerated, menopause, puberty and so many more important issues which have an impact on our lives.  I would love to hear about you and the challenges you face.